Do You Hate Your Morning Commute In London?

According to the women's health mag, we spend on average 28 days a year committing to work. Sharing space with smelly people, smelly food and loud people after a long day’s work can make you question for faith in humanity.

On average we spend 59-70 minutes courting to and from work every day! Somehow we've allowed ourselves to believe it's a necessary evil. I'm here to remind you that it's not!

Did you know there has been a 56 percent increase in the cost of train travel in the past 10 years (rac foundation)

Commuting wastes time, money, emotional & physical energy

Those who drive to work tend to weigh more, spend less time exercising and are more at risk of disease.

Each driver spend on average 30 hours in traffic each year in the UK (Inirix)

Make the most of your commute

Cycling takes less time, London is smaller than you think

Treat yourself to a cab every now and then depending on your distance is probably the same price

Leave for work at off-peak hours

Bring something interesting along for your journey

Enjoy the commute the best you can, we've all got to get somewhere!

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Hot Topic: 6 Things Happy People Usually Do

Regardless of where you are in life don't expect people to think or worry about your happiness. (Unless they really love you). Truth is your joy, health and wellbeing are only down to you. At times it can seem a struggle just remembering to stay positive, active and future-focused in difficult times. We often rely on different things to keep us happy. Since putting mindfulness at the forefront of my thoughts every day, there are things I have noticed that happier people just do more often. Since practising mindfulness regularly we often forget that our thoughts are not things, no matter how true or false they are. Your thoughts are there as a guide, decisions we make and ultimately how we choose to feel. When bringing awareness to these things using mindfulness techniques, you start becoming aware of how much the capacity of the mind has over our lives and the way we live it.

    Happiness is an inside job

1. Happy people tend to find the positive in every situation

Being in good spirits more often is down to the mind more than anything else. Practising mindfulness every day over the past couple months has made me realise that what you think about most is a key part of how you feel. Happy people usually appreciate challenges because they innerstand that this is how you grow. Inner peace and balance is true wealth, regardless of what we get presented with in life, it is our own responsibility to observe it, accept it and decide what or how much it really means to us.

2. Happy people are usually happy with what they have

Happier people don't spend much time thinking about what they don't have. Some people even find happiness in not having certain things. Optimistic people generally focus on what they do have, what they're pleased with and how they can work towards becoming even happier with their lives and themselves. Happier people don't spend much time comparing themselves to others because that take would take away from their own gifts that are special to them. So happy people make more time for things that are important to their happiness.

3. Happy people are usually more compassionate to others

Happy people usually like to treat others with respect, they listen to others and can be more sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of those around them. Happy people usually appreciate honest feedback and trustworthiness, happy people prefer the painful truth over lies or false narratives.

    'Do to others as you would like done to yourself'

4. Happy people tend to take responsibility for their actions and are more honest with themselves

Because not doing so tends to lead to being more unhappy. Consciously or unconsciously lying to others or yourself makes for resistance in life. Happier people tend to forgive themselves and forgive others. I have found being more accountable can be difficult, but I have noticed it allows for you to get to know yourself more and what you will or won't do in the future. No one is perfect but happy people tend to admit that because they know being perfect is impossible.

5. Happy people live in the present moment

Happier people tend to let things go. We get that bad things happen in life and that mistakes are made yet it's much better to truly let it go, then carry resentment or negativity because you feel its necessary. Unhappy people can dwell on the past or the future. Living life to the fullest starts with being happy in the present, despite your circumstances. Time usually heals all and happy people would rather live in the present.

6. Happy people tend to attract more happy people

Unhappy people like to see others unhappy. Happy people tend to be more passionate about positivity. Happy people don't constantly compete with others and put them down. They are usually happy for others and appreciate individual gifts. Happy people try not to hold any unexpressed negative intent but instead have more innerstanding, compassion and happiness for themselves and others. Happy people might enjoy art, dancing, singing, making people laugh and messing around etc yet they live passionately. So then attract people with similar high spirits who appreciate good cheer, lightheartedness and better well-being.

Be Happy

Be Healthly

Be Unified 

BE YOU!

Thanks For Reading,

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Speaking Positivity Into Your Life

Mental Health And Positive Self Talk

Enduring hard times and even anticipating hardship is really, all the way that we see it. At times when we feel our lowest our thought processes mirror that. The things we focus on, the things we say and the things we think about all reflect how we are feeling at the time.

Something I have learnt through my own melancholy is that through each stage, I always found something negative to think about, even if it had nothing to do with me. Somehow I found a reason and that was it. I also had this overwhelming need for other people, to be responsible for my happiness and other the happiness of people. The whole thought process that we should all be co-existing happily and making each other happy, which is cute if you're actually practising what you preach.  Its possible but still unrealistic.

You cannot live through someone else, not there successes or failures you must be there for yourself first.

Primarily mental health is like mental hygiene, you have to mentally give yourself instructions of support, upliftment and positivity as many times you need it daily. Also having awareness of ourselves and how we feel is important, your body shows you signs when you're unhappy. Listen to them and think about your thoughts at that exact time. Our mind is a tool and the way it works is literally down to how we use it, so what you do with it, in turn, will become your strength or your weakness. This was something up till recently I didn't really understand properly. We assume affirmations are something we think about most and recite every day afterwards, but it doesn't particularly matter how many times you say something inspiring to yourself, it's what you say/do that matters.

Speaking positive instruction into life is not something we're taught. It's not particularly easy to shift into. It works best at the time when your upset, emotional or frustrated. There doesn't actually have to be a particular reason for the way your feeling, in essence, you're just pissed off and it's beginning to affecting your day.

Better Mental Hygiene Through Positive Instruction

Listening to signs in your body really helps, it's connected straight to what's controlling everything else. 

Plus eating well really helps, 4 chemicals that influence more happiness in the brain are Dopamine, Serotonin, Oxytocin and exercising which help to release more endorphins in the body making, you feel happier. I have found that whenever I have eaten unhealthy food regularly, it's a lot easier for me to be miserable, same with not exercising some exercise is good even if it isn't rigorous exercise. 

What's most important to do what's best for you.

Be Happy

Be Healthy

Be Unified

Be You

Thanks For Reading!



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Originality And How To Be Authentically You

Be different, always do the opposite of what everyone else is doing. Take pride in everything you do, have no shame in yourself. Remember you are a creator, never accept everything just the way it is. Never let anyone box you in, or frown upon your creativity.

Don't think about what other people will think, they're going to judge you anyway. Always do what you want and what's right for you.

Being authentic is a gift, being able to turn nothing into something is pure alchemy. Our imagination is heaven, our imagination knows no limits or bounds. It is not confined to any space or time, it is always present at our call, but we've stopped using it. We've stopped tapping into our creativity and wonder. We have given up on our creativity. We have stopped thinking about those little things we love that truly define ourselves. We mimic and copy each other in different variations, we have changed so much that we don't even notice how similar we are becoming to each other.

Men have started dressing like women and are almost unrecognisable. We are where similar fashion, eat and drink the same things, same hairstyles, brand names, TV shows. We watch the same sports and scorn anything that's even slightly different, Don't let anyone take your authenticity away from you, it defines your very being. It's the most beautiful representation of you and whoever doesn't like it, will have to lump it!

Live In This World, But Be Not Of It

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Starve The Ego, Feed The Soul

To often we act out of pride and lose the people we love because of our ego. Our ego is our fake sense of self-esteem and self importance. Purposefully there for everyone else to see. It is what we want people to think of us. Which is why I titled this post

'Starve the ego, feed the soul'

Your ego is not you. It's coating your low self-esteem and self worth, your hiding underneath it and not being who you truly are. You don't need ego to show high self worth because you actually become that. True winners are people that abandon their ego, don't read this senseless garbage in motivational books about ego being essential to be a winner, your competitive nature or desire to succeed has nothing to do with ego, it is embedded within you.

Don't be afraid to show emotion to show, to show that you love & care for someone. Ego will replace that emotion for pride, anger and rejection, scorn and picking holes in other people, as so to avoid yourself.

Ego leads to what I call 

Attack of the ball sacks or Battle of the nipples

I say this because of how endlessly pointless living in ego can become, especially because its not the real you.

Life is so short & so fast. The shoes you have on today may not fit you next year. What upsets you now will be a distant memory in the near future, why is it we create problems that don't really exist. Out of thin air we find problems in things around us, in others & ourselves instead of observing the moment and truly reflecting on what we really should be thinking about. 

Many people have ego for different reasons, usually it's to hide something you really don't want someone else to know. People say the nastiest things to protect there pride or protection from embarrassment. Not really meaning what they say & do. 

Face yourself & what your hiding from. Don't be ashamed to say that you have emotions and feelings towards a situation, feeling embarrassed or sad doesn't make you any less of a person it makes you brave for being a bigger & better person. For wanting to deeply move on from your past & what's blocking you to a better future. 

Apologise when necessary & don't live in regret, don't live in your ego. Your ego is a senseless version of you, who only cares about how people perceive you, you are bigger than your ego, overcoming your ego may sometimes feel like your losing your mind. It's not your mind, losing your ego is being the true you. 

Value things in life, feel express & be

Starve The Ego, Feed The Soul 

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How To Find A Solution To Every Problem

There are 2 types people, optimistic, pessimistic. Glass half empty, glass half full and neutral. 

The way to a happy and successful lifestyle is through optimism and solution based living. The idea that there are solutions to every single problem created in existence and that all you need to do is start truly believing that. Spend less time dwelling and discussing the problem and more time trying to co-ordinate a solution.

Talking about your problems should really be finding a way to express and release them; within good surroundings, in a private environment. If you're just complaining and moaning about the same things day in day out, you are a pessimistic person. If you find yourself repeating the same cycle of procrastination and stress everyday, you are doing something wrong.

Don't allow yourself to believe you are doing the best thing for you, by constantly complaining and moaning about things not going your way or blaming other people. 

Just about everything you don't like effecting your life is your fault. 

Allowing a few extreme exceptions, it's time to start fully believing in yourself and your capabilities. 

The moment you can accept that somewhere along the line you let yourself down, you can start creating solutions to overcome the problems your facing and never return to that place again. 

Solution based living is training your mind to respond to the idea that when ever and where ever there is a problem there is also a solution. The problem can be about anything not just to do with you or your surroundings. You must simultaneously train your mind to start feeling guilty about dwelling on a problem for too long, you don't want to feel guilty because of how your allowing this problem to make you feel, since problems are usually negative things. 

This should urge you to want to create a solution because you know your giving your emotional strength a double whammy and not solving anything. Your at a stand still.

When I first started this technique writing down my thoughts and reading them back to myself the next day helped a lot. After 24 hours have passed you always feel different about everything. I did this daily until my own writings revealed my solution. Subconsciously your brain is working for you all the time and you know the answers to the most confusing questions but they are deep within that 90% of subconcious part of your brain.

To learn this technique efficiently I would advise;

• Talking to someone about the way you feel
• Recording the way the feel, by writing, voice notes etc (until you have your solution)
• Listening and reading back what you have recorded (You will find this groundbreaking)
• Sitting beside a tree and breathing deeply (trees neutralise your energy and absorb all your stresses and tensions much a like magnet)
• Meditating or clearing your mind to see what comes to you

Amazing the way we know the answers, we just never sit still long enough to hear them. 

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Percieving Awareness

Definition: Awareness

1. Knowledge or perception of a situation or fact.
2. A well-informed interest in a particular situation or development.

Einstein said, until you can explain something in simple terms you do not truly understand that particular thing yet. Are you aware that you're not aware?

When I think of awareness I think of the smell of bread. I don't normally eat bread, but I would cook bread with the oven door open just to smell the sweetness in the air. I would cook bread to enjoy the sweet smell alone. I am cooking the bread because of how good the smell makes me feel and the good feelings associated with that smell. I have noticed my brain is like a computer and I can record and recall all my feelings and experiences in the physical world.

All my life I have taken awareness for granted. I have strolled through experiences using nothing more then my morals guided by emotions. So many situations became repetitive in nature. Something happens I over react, I lash out and become defensive trying to make the another person see the light. It never works and when it does, I end up being the one apologising because of the harshness of my actions. When all the while I was just trying to teach someone something, they didn't know or see.

When you apply awareness to your daily life you start to view the world around you more objectively. We tend to allow ourselves to be governed by our emotions and ego. We allow these chemical reactions to effect our better judgement and in worst case allow certain scenarios to send us into turmoil. It is important to know that your knowledge or perception of something is simply that, nothing more. There are no bad and good experiences, no perfect scenario or idealistic life exists. There is just the way that everything makes you feel and how you decide to act upon those feelings.

The importance of being aware of everything that you do is priceless.

It starts with things as simple as taking a shower and putting your clothes on. You turn the taps on and observe the water gushing out of the shower head. You take time to feel the sensations of the water on your skin, enjoy how that makes you feel. You can see the reflection of yourself in each droplet, you are aware, you are in that very moment. When you step out to get dressed, instead of throwing on anything you can find, you look in the wardrobe and think. How do I feel, what will I do today and what will be comfortable. You dress accordingly and feel the different textures and fabrics against your skin as you put the clothes on. You consciously dressed yourself.

Since becoming more aware of my surroundings I wonder how I ever used to concentrate properly on anything before. When you are not aware of what your doing, you hurt others. You mislead them and generally do not serve them well. You are not learning anything from your own actions and the way your emotions make you feel. So you are teaching people to do the same whether you believe so or not.

Awareness increases your brains intelligence. I am a strong believer that you use more of your cerebral capacity doing something like walking meditation. Being in the moment as much as you can, you are learning from each moment automatically. Just as you did as a child when your brain was much like a sponge. I myself know that awareness itself is just the initial stages of reaching a higher sense of being. This is because you become more of who you are, instead of what everything someone else wants you to be.

Meditate to be more objective,

Meditate to be more aware.

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Colourism VS Racism

I coined the term coloursim after I realised that the word racism by definition is impossible. It's like saying you hate your own face. 

We are all one race, we are the human race and collectively we are humanity. 

There is no different race of humans.

Yes we are all different colours and shades. Yes we live amongst each other as families in communities, where we all share knowledge/skills in exchange for money and commodities. Without all of us working in collaboration, society would be non existent. In our history we appreciated this more then we do now, up till a few hundred years ago when we started classing each other as colours.

MY EXPERIENCE

I was born and raised in London. My parents and great grandparents we're migrants from the Caribbean. My great great grandparents we're immigrants of the Caribbean as well. London has been a very multi-cultural place to live for the past 21 years of my life. The British have their good days and bad days, but for the most part, are incredibly curious and accepting of different nationalities. In many cases adopting many worldwide cultural tendencies like eating habits for example. Which I find very open minded. It is honouring to be able to point out how beautiful another persons culture is, so much so that you consider it for yourself.

HISTORY

Up till the 1800's we would distinguish each other by nationality. Which came with different family names (crests) English=Windsor, Trinidadian= Rampersad, Spanish= Morales. These nationalities left legacies and traditions which represent your families history, passed down through generations. The point I'm making is that if you knew your nationality and your family linage, you would know you are not just 'black' or 'white', 'red' & 'yellow'. Your family we're business men, or carpenters, missionaries etc. Colorism is not something your born with, children are not born racist, they do not class each other by being 'white' or 'black' it is something that your taught and conditioned into thinking. You don't find discrimination against looks in the animal kingdom, so why have we adopted this now? 

COLOURISM

Colourism is something people 'usually' suffer when they are the minority. Although melanin rich (darker/copper skinned) people are actually the highest population on earth. While melanin recessive (pale skinned) population are actually decreasing, due to less childbirth. Neither the less, societies standards of how we should look are becoming more warped by the day. What's worrying is everyone would rather look exactly the same, then be themselves. 

Colorism/Racism encourages self hatred for everyone no matter what skin tone.

The way I approach colourism, is that I don't. Someone has to be threatened by you emotionally, to make it appropriate, to treat you a certain way because of your skin colour. They have to feel less of a person then you, to try to make you feel that same way. Just be honoured that somebody who normally wouldn't even catch your eye passing by. Would take their time and energy to try and put you down because of something as small as your, glossy strawberry ginger hair or smooth chocolate skin. You stand out, just the way you are, without even trying. 

To help me get to this conclusion about colourism or racism, it helped for me to investigate myself. I had to sit back and think about what I really thought about other people as a child. Afterwards, I researched  my family roots and how far my bloodline dates back. When you find out that before your family became slaves, your Ethiopian uncle's were the Royal family of Germany. At the same time your European cousins were slaves in Africa for Arabs. We are all one human family, so celebrate your differences and be proud of what makes you who you are. You'll learn that the world history is a lot bigger then the western curriculum can teach, even though its the most well known. Our civilisation are the babies of the golden empires of the past, that lasted thousands of years. Don't take colourism too seriously, after all we live in a universe, with at least one billion observable galaxies, hows that for perspective.

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How To Deal With Bullying

Being bullied is yet still, a taboo subject. Most people don't want to admit that they've ever been bullied or been a bully. Yet there are so many forms of bullying, now it's becoming more and more common. Over 14% of school students in the USA have considered suicide due to bullying. Even worse in the UK 50% of students are bullied and over 30% are bullied at school weekly. Worldwide, people suffer domestic violence and some are targeted because of race or religion. This is the elite's game of divide and conquer. Still no matter how widely accepted, it is becoming. Bullying is wrong, it only reveals the weakness and sorrow inside of the perpetrator.

After observation of bullying in different scenarios, they all have similar patterns, fear based tactics that stem from the same type of characteristics in people. So whether you've been bullied at work, college or online it's not right, it doesn't matter how many validate it or try to make it OK. 

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

This is the most convincing effect bullies like to have over you. Trying to make you feel lonely or left out, starting to give you the idea that the world is against you, even though you know that's not true. I have seen the worst of persistent bullying, but never had the kind of heart to behave like that myself.

In school I was quite popular, I got along with everyone and never had any fights or enemies. Just those jealous whispers here or there, but I was raised not to take criticism too seriously. Especially if the accusers don't have the balls to say anything to your face! 

I would be lying, if I told you I've never been bullied before because I have. 

I'm coming from a stage in my life, where I can acknowledge all the good and bad, I can embrace that it all made me who I am and if your reading this, I would want the same for you too.

Being treated like an outcast feels horrible. When I was bullied, I began to feel consumed with hatred. I became heavy hearted and although this anger drove me to my best accomplishments. I was still unhappy because I allowed their darkness to consume me. Now it was mine and somehow I had to deal with it. I have learnt that it is easy, for anyone to become a target. Sometimes you bring it on yourself directly, sometimes indirectly. What you need to know is that these are tests, that you have attracted to yourself for a reason. Yes, I'm saying you have to blame yourself as well! 

As innocent as you feel you are, the universe doesn't present something to you, that you can't deal with. These are all lessons that you needed to guide you through life, something to learn from, not to carry as extra weight throughout your life.

HOW TO REMEDY BULLYING

"Loving Yourself Is A Form Of Self-Respect"

The answer is you need to love yourself more. Love yourself more, then to let their issues get to you. These people are reflections of you, almost like your inner weaknesses that you are capable of being like. These people are sent to teach you something to conquer, it might be patience with that annoying boss, you need the money, but not the heartache. It could be learning self defence against those annoying bullies at school or learning to turn the other cheek. 

Block the negative out and look at what is to gain from every experience. 

Everything is sent to you as a lesson and this is why some people get bullied more then others, because ultimately they don't do the right thing for themselves. You should love yourself enough to know that your worth more, then hanging around with trashy people, or horrid people that simply drain your energy all the time. Don't hang out with people you don't like because of peer pressure. Fight for yourself because no one else will. Never let anyone make you feel like your any less then them, because that's never true.

Meditate more and quiet your mind for a minimum of 10 minutes a day. 

Then ask yourself questions like; What should I do to fix this situation? What should I do to help myself? What advice would I give to someone in my shoes? No matter what, always ask yourself, even if you have to everyday. Remember, look at negative experiences as an opportunity for growth, you have the keys to let yourself out. No one else can know how you feel, better then yourself. So believe in your own inner wisdom, then thank yourself later for it.

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Happiness - The Placebo Effect

Sometimes it can seem like the whole world is shattering around you. Sometimes you look around and see everything falling apart. We humans from nature's perspective resemble parasites at the moment. Polluting the earth, continuous conflict, war ,famine and poverty, family issues, general lawlessness and the media de-sensitising the nation. All these things and your own life experiences; can seem overwhelming after awhile. As the years go by we start to forget who we are, and what we're here for. You start feeling like an ID number instead of a person; after the rebellious teenage years, the rose tinted specs come off and you notice the empty vessels people live in.

Has it dawned on you, that every 5 years politicians tell the same lies every manifesto, government invest all our 'tax paying money' in the wrong places. With no incredible shift of perspective, no real changes are being made at all. Every year technology gives us a new way, to get things done efficiently. Will we ever truly consider how this is affecting mental and physical health? Do we even consider our mental health, amongst all the distractions of life?

I could quote you some illegitimate statistics on global depression. Quoting where depression is most common globally. I could tell you that depression is mostly found amongst women rather then men. 

"But if your reading this, then it's fair to say you know there's something missing, you know somethings not right and your searching for something but you can't put your finger on what it is."

Through research and life experiences I have started piecing the puzzle of life together and many other people are waking up to this reality. Society is not going to uplift you or add any real betterment to your life, unless you win the lottery tomorrow, then maybe. We could focus on the things we don't like everyday, the mistakes we've made, the system being flawed but that has nothing to do with you. What you are missing is yourself.

THE PLACEBO EFFECT

'a beneficial effect produced by a placebo drug or treatment, which cannot be attributed to the properties of the placebo itself, and must therefore be due to the patient's belief in that treatment.'

In other words, be kind to your mind. If you have faith that something is going to work for you. Your belief in that particular thing can have a beneficial effect on your life. So I ask you, to change your perspective. Everyday you wake up is a new day. There are no two days of your life that are ever the same. You are never the person that you we're yesterday, even if it feels like that, same sh*t different day saga. When you start to acknowledge something for a brief moment everyday, you actually begin to believe it. 

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What do you do every morning when you wake up? 

It could be having your morning coffee or watching the sunrise? Taking your medication?(it has to be something that's not distracting). 

2

Take 3 minutes to imagine your taking an imaginary dose of happiness, it could be sipping your coffee of joy, or taking a deep breath of clarity. 

What you're trying to do is quiet your mind and acknowledge what your doing, being thankful for a new day. 

Last night the moon cleared away the stagnant energy of yesterday and the sun has risen on a fresh day to start brand new. Throw away negative thoughts and do not acknowledge anything that does not serve you well. You are the creator of your life, be thankful for the air you breathe and the health and happiness you have. You are alive another day! The woes of yesterday do not matter, the past is not who you are now, the universe has granted you a completely new day to be whoever you choose to be. So don't allow yourself to be de-moralised by your surroundings. You do not have to be religious to be thankful to higher forces.

When your inner world comes into order, your outer world will follow.

Nobody knows what the future holds, but just because you've got to follow your normal routine to work or school, doesn't mean you can't encourage amazing opportunities for yourself along the way. Love yourself enough to know that you are powerful and can attract what you want towards you. Be proud of yourself no matter what anyone has to say or do. 

You are uniquely you! Nothing will ever be as authentic as the soul that lives within you. 

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